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“Daddy pee in cup. Throw it out the window. MORE PLEASE!”

That’s what a toddler says on hour 8 out of 9 total hours in the car when your 3.5 hour road trip to Tahoe turns into 9 hours due to mudslides, and you are at a dead stop at the detour, and the husband reaaaally has to pee. A lot. I now fully believe that Calvin’s first memory in his little brain will forever be his dad peeing in a cup and dumping it out the window…. more than once.

We went up to the snow a few weeks ago, my wonderful wedding clients had me travel there to do their engagement photos in the snow, and we decided to stay a couple of extra nights for some family ime after my work was done. It is so much fun showing this silly little guys new things for the first time. He loved exploring a new house- we stayed in a VRBO house ( want to check it out? See it here…) which was cooovered in snow and super comfortable for our little family. It was a complete time capsule from 1989 complete with severely dated people magazines, canned goods that expired in 1991, and carpet in the bathroom- or maybe that’s a thing in coler climates? What to you do when the toilet overflows? I just have so many questions about carpet in a bathroom….)

Calvin’s favorites were waking up to see the snow plow come up our driveway, watching Mike + I hurl ourselves down a hill on a sled (he went with me a few times too), and he was fascinated by the icicles. We had fun exploring with him and getting a few days of time to relax together after I was done working. Can’t wait to plan our next little getaway.

Photos are a mixture of my iPhone 4s (I’m ancient…) and my MIII

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(Please note the follow post contains affiliate links and reviews of products that were given to me complimentary in an in-kind partnership.)

As a toddler mom who works about 30+ hours a week running my business, there is zero time to think beyond the basic levels of keeping myself alive. 1) Have I eaten in the last 48 hours? 2) Have I slept my usual 4-5 hours? That’s usually about it. Skincare? Nope. No room in my brain.

Enter Rodial, who was kind enough to send me out full sized samples of their top notch products to give me some winter-rejuvenation to my severely lacking skincare and beauty routine. I wanted to take a moment to share a few of my favorites from all of the goodness they sent me… because they were seriously amazing.

My FAVORITE…

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Rodial Stem Cell Super Food Facial Oil

The “oil” in the title left me feeling a little worried that I was self-inducing a countdown to a breakout, but this facial oil was the most amazing, lighweight, rejuvinting moisturizer- so perfect for winter. It smells amazing and absorbs really well. I am going on two full months of using this bottle and it is a little over halfway empty so a little goes a long way with this!

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Rodial Glamoxy Snake Mask

I am usually ther low-maintenance girl who refuses to use masks… but this one was such a winner and has converted me to change my ways. TIt did an excellent job and cleaning out pores and removing dead skin.

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Rodial Glamolash Mascara

Love the jet-black color of this along with its thickness- I am used to applying layer after layer, and was good to go with just two applications of this. It has had minimal smudging when I wear it on shoots (which is hard to find).

All photos are courtesy of Amazon.com

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One of my favorite things is acting as a creative director and stylist for my own productions – from designing the shoot to sourcing pieces and coordinating the vendors to styling the props and wardrobe to bring the vision to life, creative direction allows me to bring what’s in my head to life. If you are a photographer who is wondering how you can reach your ideal target client- styled shoots are in my opinion the best way to reach that next level- you can create a visual representation of the type of work you want to book.

Taking a few minutes today to blog a few of my favorite shoots I have styled + photographed:

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As much as we want to believe that wedding planning will be a joy-filled journey with zero road blocks and the same enthusiasm and support for your vision of your wedding day that you hold, unfortunately many couples come to find that within their wedding planning they are met with some criticism of their plans, dreams, and vision for their day. Continuing on in my wedding planner guest blogger series is the Cherry Levin of Vows and Promises Wedding Consultation and Design lending her wisdom in a thorough wealth of information on how to handle these issues!

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As a wedding planner, my job is to help couples navigate the complexities of wedding planning. My services are based on good business and organizational skills. I assist in the selection of vendors who will bring the couple’s dreams to fruition yet stay within a prescribed budget. And, an additional responsibility is to ensure that the wedding day will flow smoothly. Yet, numerous times, the important part of my role is tied to the gray area of psychology and not mentioned in any of the training classes offered for wedding planners. While a plethora of information is available on topics such as ways to trim the budget, defining a uniquely personal style, hot colors and trendy designs, along with DIY ways to add zest your wedding, few articles speak to advising couples or planners how to deflate areas of family tension that arise as an inevitable part of wedding planning. So, when brides often ask me how they can stay true to their own vision, dreams and budget while attempting to appease important family members who may be pulling in different directions, I answer: negotiate space. Here is my explanation for this statement.

The traditional white wedding (here I am referring to a bride in a white dress who carries flowers, is attended by her friends and brought into the ceremony by her father and is handed to her new partner) is a complex rite of passage. It is a compilation of little bits and pieces of rites that date back well into Classical Greco-Roman society with bits of English traditions thrown in. Yet, in a world that offers little choice for the timing of birth or death, weddings are full of choices. Most of you are free to choose who to marry, when to marry and how to marry because others have paved the way for those freedoms. Yes, you must consent publically or the deal is off! Yet, the traditional white wedding that we know today often presents challenges to couples that are not readily addressed in popular media. The most frequent of challenges, in my experience, is usually enacted between the bride and her family, especially her mother. In a nutshell, here’s why: the newly betrothed bride thinks the wedding she is planning is “hers.” Unfortunately, she may quickly find out otherwise as her mother wants to put her proverbial two cents in because the parents think the wedding is partially theirs. And, especially if they are helping to pay for it. The wicket can get sticky quickly under these circumstances.

Let me share this real-life example with you. My bride, a lovely young woman, recently engaged, had her heart set on a garden wedding. Her fiancé was in the military and would be transferred soon so the wedding must take place quickly. The couple found an amazing venue; not only was it in their price range and but it was luckily available for their preferred date. This date was special because it coincided on the twentieth wedding anniversary of the groom’s parents who were planning to come from Europe to be at the wedding. But, when the couple joyfully announced their good fortune to the bride’s parents, the mother of the bride reacted strongly. And, not in a good way. She insisted, loudly and rigorously, that her daughter must have a church wedding. After all, when she married the bride’s father, he had been divorced so she was unable to realize her dream of flowing down the aisle of a huge church with light from the stained glass windows shining down on her chapel-length lace train. Instead of her dream church wedding, she wore a suit and married in the backyard of her family home. She always felt a little cheated and determined that her daughter would not have a similar feeling about her wedding. So, ever since her daughter was born, she had dreamed of the day her daughter would be married with all the pomp and circumstance that a church wedding can create. Her daughter, on the other hand, was vehemently against a wedding in a sacred space because of conflict with the groom’s religious background and truly had her heart set on the beautiful secular outdoor garden wedding. It all seemed perfect: the place, the date, the avoidance of religious issues; so why, she asked me, was her mother ruining her day?

This is how I explained the situation to the bride. I helped her understand that it is essential to recognize that each and every wedding creates a unique community composed of parents (in-law), siblings, close and distant relatives, best friends, old friends, co-workers, and business acquaintances. You will never have the exact group of people together again that you have celebrating your wedding. Each member of the wedding party, each guest is special or they would not have been invited. Not only is the bride on display with all eyes upon her (and thus her worry for perfection) but also the entire family is on exhibition. So, it is no wonder that people get a bit nervous about the whole thing. More often than not, it is the bride’s mother that imposes her ideas and visions on her daughter. The bride’s mother sets the standard of etiquette for the wedding by taking on the role as matriarch of the family. Most likely, she will take this role rather seriously. On the other hand, the bride should try to be generously aware that some women want their daughters to have what they, as young women, were unable to experience or were denied at their weddings. The real problem lies in the fact that the mother has become wrapped up in her romantic longings for the past and fails to separate her unrealized dream from her daughter’s present and potential dream unfolding. Moreover, it is sometimes ironic that this lovely gesture on the mother’s part may or may not be accepted on the part of the bride.

So many times, I see this familiar situation unfolding before my eyes. The situation can get really tense and some mothers and brides dig in. They won’t budge and may become unreasonable. Then this happens: IF you don’t . . . then I won’t . . . and all of a sudden, you have a stalemate. During a stalemate, people may begin to feel and behave badly. The smallest hill becomes a mountain that cannot be scaled. The people involved sometimes say or do things they may regret later. This is my signal as a planner to put on my “Facilitator” hat and come to the rescue of the overstressed bride, and her older counterpart.

In my almost twenty years of wedding planning, I have seen more than one rational, loving woman turn into an irrational, foot-stomping monster. This being is completely on par with that oft- described bride-gone-wild, the Bride-zilla that brides and planners alike chuckle over. But, no one laughs at the Mom-zilla. If the truth is known, several of these have been close friends of mine yet we managed to get through the wedding maze and are still friends. So, the question becomes how can planners handle and redirect the forces that turn loving parental units into tempests that threaten to wreak havoc over the entire wedding and to derail the family dynamics that follow. My answer: by negotiating space.

A savvy planner can accomplish this with total honesty. First, you appeal to the mother of the bride. Quietly and clearly, you remind her that she had her turn. It might not have been what she dreamed but if she keeps pushing her daughter, then neither of them will experience the beautiful wedding that they both wanted. As my father would have said, “Two wrongs don’t make a right.” If you speak with your heart, then the bride’s mother is probably listening by now. Then, I follow with asking her to take a deep breath and to step back and let me negotiate. What is the one special detail that she would like visualized from her dream to her daughter’s wedding? Are there religious readings read by some special family member who was present at your wedding? Is there a meaningful piece of music we could play? Let’s put our heads together. I maintain confidence that we will be able to do something to soften this change in venue and vision. Once that is relayed, I take it back to the bride and usually we are able to end the stalemate. In the little story above, we were able to convey to the bride’s mother that a garden wedding would be most suitable for her daughter’s wedding. The wedding took place on a bright spring day and all the family members were present. After the guests were leaving, the bride’s mother came to thank me. Little did she know that I had just been in the same predicament with my own daughter and practiced what I preach. I took a step back, took a deep breath and closed my mouth! I am not saying that it wasn’t hard: I’ve been planning weddings for quite a while. But when the day was over and I saw my daughter’s face, I was perfectly happy. She had a beautiful wedding!
This is negotiating space. It means; give and take. Don’t push and pull. Most couples planning a wedding really want their parents to approve of their wedding plans. Stand back and offer your opinion when it is asked for. This is not to say that mothers of the bride should not resist outrageous actions. Most try to limit their daughter’s extreme behavior as the family is on display. Did anyone see the segment of Say Yes to the Dress when Randy found a perfect gown for a bride with tattoos all over her back, neck and arms? The mother was trying to cover the tattoos, the bride was trying to show them off. Somehow the dress Randy selected enhanced the bride’s natural beauty and then the tattoos were not such a big deal for the mother. Another great example of negotiating space. If you can’t do it yourself, call for help. Remember what is important and stay open for that!

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A distinguished graduate of the Association of Bridal Consultants’ Professional Development Program, Cherry has planned and coordinated over two hundred weddings throughout the San Francisco Bay Area, the Wine Country and Lake Tahoe. She has also planned weddings in San Luis Obispo, Texas and locations throughout southeastern Louisiana from Baton Rouge to New Orleans.

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The last few weeks we have been talking about wedding planners  , and the fact is that many of my clients may not have it in the budget to hire a full-service wedding planner to work with them from start to finish in planning and executing their day. In that case, I always recommend seeking out hiring a private professional wedding coordinator to cover at least some of the responsibility and execution of the wedding. If left to friends and family, or worse- the couple themselves- it’s VERY rare for a wedding day to go smoothly and stress-free for the couple and their friends, family, and guests. Leave to to the pro’s, you guys- you will not regret it. But how much help exactly is the minimum to ensure a successful day?

I asked Ashley Ramirez of Eighteenth Avenue Events to share some wisdom in explaining how much time you must book your coordinator for at a minimum to ensure a successful, stress-free day.

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The Difference Between Day-Of and Month-Of Wedding Coordination

We could talk all day about how venue coordinators are different than an outside coordinator or how important it is to have a planner and why, however today we have been asked to write a guest blog about the significant difference of ‘DAY OF’ coordination vs ‘MONTH OF’ coordination. Truthfully there really is no such thing as Day Of and I would really like to share why….

Imagine you have been called in for an interview for the BIGGEST job of your life, a life changing job, that is soo important to you, however you do not know anything about this particular company or title that you would be taking. Naturally, you would prepare for this job interview for weeks, studying the company, what your role would be, questions you need to ask and what questions they will ask you….but instead you go in for the interview on the DAY OF and know NOTHING!!! How in the world are you going to ace this interview not knowing anything? How is it going to go so smoothly when you are asked many challenging questions that you should know the answers to? You will feel like you need to ask for a life line (call to a friend, aka THE BRIDE) in order to answer those questions. Well I want to tell you that it is IMPOSSIBLE. There is no such thing as day of especially when it comes to one of the biggest days of your life. You should not even want someone just for “day of” to come and possibly mess something up that could have been so easily avoidable had we been working together for at least a month prior.

The reason why the month leading up to your wedding day is so crucial to have someone on board helping and working with you is actually for multiple reasons other than just being knowledgeable about your wedding prior to the wedding day. It is about the time all your RSVPs come in and it becomes a domino effect for all contract updates that need to be reflected by those numbers; such as your catering contract for the correct head count and specific meal selections (and to add in your vendor meals…yes we have to be fed too), your rental changes for less tables, chairs, linens, napkins, placesettings, floral updates for less centerpieces based on your new headcount or any last minute changes you want done, etc etc. You get the picture. Now do you really want to be the one stressed out contacting all your vendors again making contract changes and worrying about how much the new balance is for you to pay. We take care of all of that for you.

We also are in contact with all your vendors to make sure everyone knows their time of arrival and departure, where they load in and out of, the exact service they are contracted for, as well as getting all those final balances over to you in one email so it is easy on you. We have a final walk through with you to go over layout ideas and options and put together your floorplans. We also create a detailed wedding day timeline for all your vendors to know when everything is happening down to the minute of your wedding day. This includes when dances and speeches are happening (in what order), what songs are to be played and when, when to make announcements, meal selections, and much more!

Lastly, we are there to lead you in your wedding rehearsal whether that is the day or a few days prior to your wedding. In order to do all of this, we REALLY need to be on board for at least a month prior to your wedding, please do not forget how much detail and preparation goes into your BIG DAY!!

When planning your wedding and thinking about hiring a full service planner or coordinator, please make sure to hire a professional who understands your wedding, your wants and needs, and who you truly connect with and trust…it will make a world of a difference for a successful major life event!

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Ashley has been planning weddings for almost 10 years and started her company Eighteenth Avenue Events in 2009. She has offices in both Austin Texas and San Francisco California, however plans destination weddings often as well. With a background in Interior Design and a passion for love and marriage, helping couples create their perfect romantic day is a dream come true for her. She loves being able to walk into a room and see the unique space she created for someone on the biggest day of their lives.

Her work has been featured in Ceremony Magazine, Pacific Weddings Magazine, Ruffled, Wedding Sparrow, Wedding Chicks, Wed Society, Fab You Bliss, The Lovely Bay, Borrowed & Blue, and Pizzazzerie.

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I’m back this week with another post in my wedding planner guest series!

Have you ever wondered what the biggest mistakes couples make when planning their wedding may be? As someone who planned my own wedding, I know what our biggest mistakes were, but for a newly engaged couple in the process of getting started with planning imagine if you could know the top mistakes made in advance from the point of view of a seasoned professional who has seen them occur countless times! Writing for us today is the wonderful Lara Kreutner of SEALED WITH A KISS EVENTS

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1. The Ceremony
The reason we have these massive, expensive parties is to celebrate the ceremony of marriage. Sure, it is only a few minutes long sometimes, and the reality is that to make things official, only a few sentences need to be uttered in front of the officiant. Why not put thought into the ceremony? I have clients asking all kids at the wedding to process down the aisle with white balloons (adds ambiance and cuteness overload!) I have had clients say public vows then have private vows where they whisper into each others ears and it was SO romantic. I love when the parents are involved, sharing words of wisdom or notes of hope/excitement. I personally wanted a gospel choir at my wedding – I love their energy! At the end of the day there are so many ways to make your wedding personal, romantic, and memorable so THINK about the ceremony!

On a separate note, I highly encourage pre-marital counseling with a pastor or therapist. It is a huge commitment and its reassuring to know you are both ready and excited for the next step, know how to cope with stress together, and know how to work through disagreements in a healthy way.

2. What Will The Groom Be Doing All Day?
I love when I go to meetings and the bride has her whole day planned to a “T” but when I ask what her beloved will be doing all day while she gets ready with her friends, she hasn’t even thought about it! I like to ask the grooms what would make them relaxed and happy that morning – does it mean a workout? A round of golf? An amazing breakfast burrito? A massage? Let’s try to make his day just as amazing as yours leading up to the ceremony!

3. Not Hiring The Right Vendors
There are SO many incredible wedding vendors. There are also a lot of not-so-great wedding vendors. Part of the reason it’s a great idea to work with a planner from the beginning is that we know who you need to call. Ultimately, you are creating you “dream team” of vendors to make your wedding come to life and be incredible. You likely don’t have the budget to get the “best in the business” in every field but that is OK! As planners we make it our business to know as many people in the industry as possible so that we can refer you to people in your price point and people we think you will get along with. Someone who worked great at your friend’s wedding might not be the right fit for you or might clash with your wedding style – which is just bad for everyone. Call a planner and hire them before you hire any other vendors – trust me it is the BEST investment (and I am not just saying that because I am a planner).

Please don’t “hire” your friends or family! Oh man. This scenario stresses me out. I totally understand why someone would think to “ask a friend” to save money on a specific task but weddings are not the right party to be asking for favors. If you want something done right you hire a professional. I really encourage my clients to consider all of the professional options before they go this route. If you have a friend with a legitimate business contract, who charges you and you are OK with that because you want to support them as small business owners – great! No contract + no charge = no responsibility, liability, and possible failed relationship. When you pay someone for something they are doing you are showing that you respect their talent or service and when you sign a contract you have a form of written legal communication of services/products to be rendered and that person will be held accountable if they aren’t delivered. Trust me on this, just hire professionals who do this regularly and everyone will be happier (including your other vendors!)

4. Don’t Be A Pinterest A-Holic
It’s important to be authentically yourself. Please don’t copy everything you see on pinterest. The chances of it being overdone is quite high and the chances of at least a majority of your wedding guests also having seen them on pinterest is also high. If you are able to find your own style, do it. Don’t get married in a barn because you think it will be more affordable – chances are that it won’t be. Mason jars are hard to hold, and burlap itches and sheds little brown fibers. Signs with kitschy phrases have all come and gone. Give your guests one activity, two maximum and leave it at that. They don’t need a sign for everything.

5. Be nice.
I know, it sounds so simple right? You would be shocked how some people treat their vendors. Appreciate us, tell us when you are happy with our service/product. Most of us are very much people-pleasers in this industry and we love appreciation so much we almost need it. I work hard for all of my clients, but I know personally I work so much harder for clients I know will appreciate it. When you text or email us after 5:00pm and we respond, know that that is not normal business hours and we are likely taking time away from family to appease your concerns. We love you, so try to remember to show us some love back 😉

I hope this was useful for you! Visit my website www.sealedwithakissevents.com to learn more about me and my company, Sealed With A Kiss Events!

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Lara has been planning weddings for her company Sealed With A Kiss Events since 2009. Though most of her weddings are in California Wine Country or San Francisco she travels all over the country planning romantic, authentic, amazing weddings for her clients and recently opened a second branch in Phoenix, Arizona. She loves her job and is passionate about helping her clients have the best day of their lives. Her work has been featured on Style Me Pretty, Once Wed, Ruffled, Snippet and Ink, Wedding Sparrow, Magnolia Rouge, 100 Layer Cake, Ruffled, Wedding Chicks, The Knot, Green Wedding Shoes and Inspired By This.

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Last week I kicked off my wedding planner guest blogger series and I am so excited that I have so many talented wedding planners scheduled to share their expertise! Last week we learned why your wedding needs a wedding planner. After reading last week’s post, as a newly engaged couple planning your own wedding you may be thinking to yourself, “my venue already has its own coordinator- do I really need to hire another???” This is such a common oversight that so many of my couples make- there is a HUGE difference between a site coordinator and a wedding planner, and I am so thankful that the wonderful Miranda Meisenbach of Mira Events has so clearly outlined the major differences between the two to ensure your wedding day runs smoothly and you are free to ENJOY your day!

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What is the Difference between a Venue Site Coordinator and a Wedding Planner?
By Miranda Meisenbach, PWC

One of the most crucial aspects of any wedding day is a dedicated point person managing the timeline, communicating with the other vendors, and ensuring even the smallest details are attended to. In short, you need a wedding coordinator.

The concept of a wedding coordinator has evolved drastically over the last 25 years. What started out as a part time hobby for some has turned into a staple profession within a massive industry that continues to grow. What this means is there are several ways for someone to be considered a “coordinator” and those ways are not always created equal.

One of the most common questions brides and grooms have when seeking a solution for their wedding day coordination is “what is the difference between a site coordinator and a wedding planner?” Many venues have a fantastic team dedicated to planning and executing all of the details pertaining to their property. For a wedding, this means having at least an overview of what other vendors are going to be doing, what the timeline will look like, and getting details on the set-up and layout. Because of this, many venues may refer to their staff as “day-of coordinators”, “event coordinators”, or “wedding coordinators”.

This nomenclature can create confusion for couples, with many lines blurred between the roles of a venue site coordinator and a private wedding planner. There are a few key differences that prospective clients should be aware of.

A site coordinator works for the venue. A wedding planner works for you.

At the end of the day, a venue site coordinator must keep the interests of the property priority to the interests of the client. Their first and foremost concern will be the details that apply to the venue and its responsibilities throughout the day. A professional wedding planner, on the other hand, is specifically contracted to advocate on your behalf during the actual day of, as well as ensure that there are no contractual discrepancies that might cause an issue on the day of. A private wedding planner will review your vendor contracts in detail well in advance of the wedding, making sure that everything lines up to both the client’s expectations, as well as to those of the venue. Furthermore, IF there are any issues that pop up throughout the planning process or on the day of, a private wedding planner will work with the venue and vendors to find an agreeable solution.

A site coordinator will be an excellent resource for what will work well with your venue, but might not be as helpful with non-venue related items.

Now, there are certainly some truly phenomenal site coordinators out there who have years of industry experience and can offer great advice on things like wardrobe, invitations, wedding websites, travel logistics, and more. Most, however, will not simply because it’s not their job! A private wedding planner is exactly the resource you will need for an unbiased, third party opinion on matters regarding all aspects of wedding planning. Even more valuably, a professional wedding planner can take on a significant portion of the legwork to relieve the burden from the clients. Generally, anything that takes place off property will not fall under the responsibility of a venue coordinator, which can put a lot of stress on couples and their families if they don’t also have the assistance of a professional wedding coordinator.

A successful wedding day includes BOTH a dedicate site coordinator and a professional wedding planner.

Venue coordinators and private wedding coordinators are each others favorite people when it comes to day-of production and pre-event planning. They often work very closely together to ensure that all of the client’s needs are being met. It is with mutual frustration that a venue coordinator tries to scrape together personal details from a client without a wedding planner and a wedding planner tries to work out a perfect floorplan from a venue without a dedicated site coordinator. Both coordinators need each other on the day of to attend to the multitude of details and items that pop up throughout the day (both planned and unplanned!) Any venue coordinator that tells a client they “don’t need a wedding planner” is either inexperienced or doesn’t have the best interest of the client in mind. Weddings and special events are products of partnerships between vendors and clients. Professional, dedicated, well-rounded vendor teams are imperative to produce a truly successful event.

To recap, here are some examples of what roles site coordinators and wedding planners take on various items:

TIMELINE
Site Coordinator: Includes information about vendor arrivals and departures, ceremony start time, and when certain activities will take place throughout the night. Will be most concerned with giving the venue team pertinent information.

Wedding Planner: Will include vendor, client, wedding party, and family arrival times, as well as their various locations throughout the day (vital for the getting ready/set-up portion of the event). Will often create separate timelines specific for the clients/wedding party to follow so that everyone is on the same page and knows where they should be at various times. Will include small details such as song selections, speech orders, meal selections for the newlyweds, and much more.

VENDORS
Site Coordinator: Could give a list of recommended or required vendors for couples to select from. Will collect contact information from each vendor. Could meet each vendor prior to the wedding at a final walk-through or wrap-up meeting. Will likely meet most of them for the first time on the day of.

Wedding Planner: Will work with the clients to find the best vendors for their event based on style, availability, and budget. Will spend several hours coordinating with each vendor to iron out all necessary details, relaying them to other vendors or the venue if necessary. Will become a point of contact for the vendors leading up to and on the day of.

WEDDING DRESS BUSTLE OR WARDROBE MALFUNCTION
Site Coordinator: Not guaranteed to have experience in bustling, hemming, or any other type of wardrobe fix although some do.

Wedding Planner: Arrives with working knowledge of dress bustles, as well as an emergency kit of supplies that include sewing materials.

PERSONAL DETAILS AT THE END OF THE NIGHT
Site Coordinator: Most venues will require all personal items to be off property or at least packed away at the end of the evening. Depending on policies, the site coordinator may be able to assist with packing up these items at the end of the evening.

Wedding Planner: Will create a detailed pack list of all personal items that will include where they are to be packed to/taken home with at the end of the event. Will personal pack-up and may even transport personal items to ensure safe delivery to clients. Have been known to drive client or guest vehicles to end of the night destinations.

OVER-SERVED WEDDING GUESTS
Site Coordinator: Will warn the guests of their behavior, may cut them off at the bar, and ultimately could call security or the police to have them removed.

Wedding Planner: Will ideally know enough about the guests’ connection to the clients to make the best decision on how to handle their behavior. Will gently encourage them to drink water and help explain why they are not being served at the bar. Will support the site coordinator if matters escalate, but will do everything possible to protect the client’s interests as well as their security deposit.

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Miranda Meisenbach is a Professional Wedding Consultant certified by the Association of Certified Professional Wedding Consultants, as well as the owner and lead coordinator for Mira Weddings + Events. She has 9 years of event and wedding planning experience in a variety of regions including San Francisco Bay Area, Lake Tahoe Area, and Phoenix, Arizona. When she is not working she is hiking with her children, practicing yoga, or studying and performing music.

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Website: http://www.mira-events.com/

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MIRAwed/

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BTS Film by Cinema Butterfly:

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Photography + Styling/Coordination: Retrospect Images
Cinematography: Cinema Butterfly
Bridal Gowns: Galia Lahav Haute Couture and Kinsley James Couture Bridal
Floral Design: Three Sisters Custom Flowers & Events
Jewelry: Elsa Corsi
Stationary: Amanda Day Rose, Wedding Artist
Hair/Makeup: Kat Tinneyand Christina Chen, Makeup by Quis
Venue: The Lyford House
Vintage Rentals: Trunks & Tales
Models: Temika Goans, Diana Padilla, Maria Garibay, Morgan Murphy

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